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cliffofcreeps answered your question: This is what you get for dating an ENFP, watch out fellow INTJ ladies.

why ask for a new one when you say you don’t like jewelries? he’ll probably think it’s about the mother’s ring. it’s insensitive and fickle

We’ve talked about my likes AND dislikes in jewelry. As I stated. Not that I dislike jewelry. I don’t like diamonds and I don’t like gold. I’m rather “non-traditional” in many aspects, wedding rings included.

It’s not being insensitive and fickle at all, unless I don’t word things the right way. And I think I would find myself rather offended that you would think that of me when you don’t know anything about me, but I know that you must have just misread what I had written about this issue.

I would rather have a ring that I would be comfortable wearing, liked to look at, not worry about damaging because it’s something so precious to him, and symbolizes our union rather than one that was meant for his mother and father’s love.

This is what you get for dating an ENFP, watch out fellow INTJ ladies.

During a conversation about marriage and our prospective futures (something I latched on to quickly as he rarely ever talks about things such as this), my boyfriend informed me that while we aren’t financially ready to marry… When he does propose to me, it will be with his mother’s wedding ring.

This is AFTER expressing my likes and dislikes in jewelry and weddings in general on multiple occasions.

And now he’s thrown his mother’s ring into the mix.

How do you tell someone you love: “I don’t like gold, I don’t like diamonds, and I don’t want to wear your dead mother’s ring because I want my own.” and not come off as insensitive?

Another INTJ problem: Relating to my SO’s emotions and knowing what to say (aka, I need advice. Please send help!)

I have a hard enough time talking about my own emotions or expressing sympathy, but it’s another thing entirely to know when it is an appropriate time to say something important to me about such a sensitive subject as my SO’s dead mother.

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Something to think about: a female INTJ in relationships (with specific attention on physical contact).

I’ve had serious relationships with three people before my current one, all lasting between 3 and 4 years each. I’m going to detail them. Mostly, this is my own musings… but I always like to hear what others have to say about their experiences. I love new perspectives, so please share if you have anything to say.

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How To Date an INTJ - Flirting

underwater-pebbles:

As a female INTJ, I think I can speak for the majority of INTJs when I say that we are difficult to date.

I’ll skip to the facts on this, but this isn’t going to be an infallible guide. Please reblog or reply with corrections or suggestions. This is more of an experiment on how well I know INTJs than anything else. Obviously none of this will apply for EVERY INTJ. 

Flirting

If you only want to know signs that an INTJ is interested, skip under the cut to the bottom of the post.

When you’re flirting with an INTJ, the most important things to present will be your personality, your personal strengths, and how you can improve his or her life - why they should talk to you as an equal. INTJs are very objective and systematic in everything they do, and they will probably know what they need or want in a partner. They will be looking for opinions and traits that you have in common with them, a solid intellect, and an ability to converse beyond just small talk.

The best time to accustom yourself to the way INTJs function is as early as possible. They don’t play by the same rules that the rest of society does. It’s not only that they have anarchist fuck-the-police tendencies, they also often play by self-imposed rules of conversation and interaction. These rules may be difficult to understand. You will have two options for dealing with these rules if the INTJ is using them: ask about the rationale and the terms of the rule, or simply roll with it.

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I agree with a lot of this. But at the same time, the one thing I’ve always found about myself that differs from the typical presentation of the INTJ is that I actually love touching.

To me, touching is just about the only way that I can fully express my emotions. Without touching, I just flail around mentally trying to figure out how to get my point across. I often find myself not knowing how to say what I mean to someone that I’m interested in, and a playful touch to the shoulder or arm or finding a reason to touch their hair is my most likely go-to for flirting.

Now mind you, I can list of the people that I actually enjoy touching on one hand.

And if I can’t touch, my next best attempt is smiling at the other person with eye contact.

INTJs and flirting

antionettechante:

Question:

• Do any of you INTJs flirt? 

Last time I flirted, I’m made a complete fool of myself and never want to attempt again. I’m just curious.

I flirt mostly when I’m not actually flirting, e.g. playing around with very close friends. When it comes to someone I’m actually interested in, I falter, become very awkward and act completely foolish. It’s rather embarrassing really.