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zomganthro: this one is TOO good.

Sun, 20 Jan 2013 23:33:23 -0600

zomganthro:

this one is TOO good.

hausofcards: Thou shalt not commit logical fallacies. You know...

Sun, 20 Jan 2013 23:12:23 -0600

hausofcards:

Thou shalt not commit logical fallacies.

You know where you fuck up.

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Sun, 06 Jan 2013 02:12:59 -0600

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Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:52:32 -0600

deslyn-brown: Me & my poor hubby. LOL! :P Sometimes, I...

Sat, 15 Dec 2012 06:12:01 -0600

deslyn-brown:

Me & my poor hubby. LOL! :P

Sometimes, I feel like this is my SO… He’s so… that.

intj-problems: Submitted by Anonymous

Wed, 12 Dec 2012 23:27:32 -0600

intj-problems:

Submitted by Anonymous

: ENFP & INTJ in a relationship

Mon, 10 Dec 2012 16:03:16 -0600

: ENFP & INTJ in a relationship:

dorianfilms:

As you two share only one of the four type preferences, you face some real challenges in your daily lives. You often have to deal with miscommunication, different values or needs and sometimes really struggle to find an agreement you both can accept. Nevertheless, opposites attract - if you both…

intj-problems: Submitted by Anonymous

Thu, 06 Dec 2012 22:59:34 -0600

intj-problems:

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allysonkate: Graphic Designer’s Myers-Briggs Infographic And...

Thu, 06 Dec 2012 22:58:17 -0600

allysonkate:

Graphic Designer’s Myers-Briggs Infographic

And this is why my SO and I love re-doing rooms and decorating them. And probably why a third of our serious conversations revolve around our dream homes… Interesting. I’m curious to see if these numbers stay the same with a larger sample size or the spread becomes bifurcated in a more pronounced way.

cliffofcreeps answered your question: This is what you get for dating an ENFP, watch out fellow...

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 02:34:31 -0600

cliffofcreeps answered your question: This is what you get for dating an ENFP, watch out fellow INTJ ladies.

why ask for a new one when you say you don’t like jewelries? he’ll probably think it’s about the mother’s ring. it’s insensitive and fickle

We’ve talked about my likes AND dislikes in jewelry. As I stated. Not that I dislike jewelry. I don’t like diamonds and I don’t like gold. I’m rather “non-traditional” in many aspects, wedding rings included.

It’s not being insensitive and fickle at all, unless I don’t word things the right way. And I think I would find myself rather offended that you would think that of me when you don’t know anything about me, but I know that you must have just misread what I had written about this issue.

I would rather have a ring that I would be comfortable wearing, liked to look at, not worry about damaging because it’s something so precious to him, and symbolizes our union rather than one that was meant for his mother and father’s love.

This is what you get for dating an ENFP, watch out fellow INTJ ladies.

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 02:04:54 -0600

During a conversation about marriage and our prospective futures (something I latched on to quickly as he rarely ever talks about things such as this), my boyfriend informed me that while we aren’t financially ready to marry… When he does propose to me, it will be with his mother’s wedding ring.

This is AFTER expressing my likes and dislikes in jewelry and weddings in general on multiple occasions.

And now he’s thrown his mother’s ring into the mix.

How do you tell someone you love: “I don’t like gold, I don’t like diamonds, and I don’t want to wear your dead mother’s ring because I want my own.” and not come off as insensitive?

"Gender differences can be significant for males because the qualities most associated with ENFPs are..."

Thu, 15 Nov 2012 02:10:01 -0600

“Gender differences can be significant for males because the qualities most associated with ENFPs are more traditionally attributed to females: sociability, desire/need to please, intuition, spontaneity, and concern for other people. As a result, when an ENFP male “plays” into those natural preferences of his personality, he can find himself outside the male “establishment.” Ironically, this may set him up to overcompensate and behave in ways atypical for ENFPs — to be, for example, competitive or overly argumentative. Seeking group approval, he may get involved with contact sports or other “tough” activities, though he would really prefer to be elsewhere. ENFP males, somewhat more than other F males, may also fall into the trap of physical seduction as a way of establishing their masculinity. Indeed, both male and female ENFPs can be intellectually and physically seductive.”

- http://morriscat.50megs.com/type/enfptype.html (via crunchberrymessiah)

Another INTJ problem: Relating to my SO's emotions and knowing what to say (aka, I need advice. Please send help!)

Mon, 12 Nov 2012 23:16:00 -0600

I have a hard enough time talking about my own emotions or expressing sympathy, but it’s another thing entirely to know when it is an appropriate time to say something important to me about such a sensitive subject as my SO’s dead mother.

This coming January, my SO will have to go through the two year anniversary of his mother’s death. She died young, and without much time to prepare, of cancer.

I’m very glad when he talks about her. He can’t talk to his brother or father or sister-in-law about some of these things. And I’m happy to always listen to him whenever he needs.

I knew her for quite a few years as well and she was there for me when I really needed advice and guidance on many more than one occasion. (And that was just when she was the mother of one of my best friends - my SO’s brother.) My SO is very much a mama’s boy, which despite hearing more about a women I very much admired presents an issue.

And that leads me to have some problems I have actually relating and responding, as well as not knowing how or when to talk about her. I’m just going to focus on one at the moment.

About ten years ago, I remember sitting outside her porch waiting for my own mother to come pick me up from hanging out with my SO’s older brother. She had been helping me figure out how to deal with my mother, offering me advice and solutions. But when the conversation lagged, she had asked me if I had any intentions towards her oldest son - who was dating my best friend at the time and eventually married her. I assured her that I had none, but when she asked about her younger son I recall blushing a bit and shrugging at her. She smiled and patted me on the shoulder.

I think, she’d be happy to know that we did eventually get together. She never did like anyone else I ever dated, as a side note. It was a year after her death when my SO and I got together, but I’d like to think I had her approval even then.

I want to tell my SO this. I feel like it’s important to me. But I have no idea whatsoever if it is even appropriate to do so… or when, if it is in fact a viable option to speak about this.

I’m just unsure of how to approach this situation and would appreciate any insight from another INTJ, or perhaps an ENFP because that’s what my SO is, or hell, anyone. I’m just outright confused by this whole thing.

"If there’s anything to make an INTJ ashamed of his type, it’s the online INTJ community"

Sun, 04 Nov 2012 16:31:13 -0600

“If there’s anything to make an INTJ ashamed of his type,
it’s the online INTJ community”

- (via honey-and-oats)

intj-problems: Submitted by Underwater-pebbles.

Fri, 02 Nov 2012 09:02:06 -0500

intj-problems:

Submitted by Underwater-pebbles.

Something to think about: a female INTJ in relationships (with specific attention on physical contact).

Wed, 31 Oct 2012 03:38:42 -0500

I’ve had serious relationships with three people before my current one, all lasting between 3 and 4 years each. I’m going to detail them. Mostly, this is my own musings… but I always like to hear what others have to say about their experiences. I love new perspectives, so please share if you have anything to say.

My first was, by my memories and interpretations, likely an ESFJ. She was a little warped by early childhood, and quite manipulative of others. She needed others’ sole attention, and was easily hurt. She also strived to be in controlled situations.

I feel as though she used my lack of emotional understanding and inexperience in relationships to completely bend me to her will. All I wanted to do was please her, it seemed. She, too, was a little more stand-offish when it came to physical contact (again presumably stemming from childhood) so I never noticed my own feelings to it. All I can say is that I did like to hug her, and I’ve always been one to enjoy cuddling in bed which is something we did on a rare occasion.

My next relationship was with someone who I think was probably an ISTJ. He was the type who believed that loyalty and trust were the foundations of a relationship and quickly fell into routine and traditions. Our relationship was very structured. We had rules and didn’t ever really connect on a deep emotional level.

Our relationship really began falling apart when it became monotonous. While I wanted to experience new things and discover them together, he was quite content to let routine take control. He failed to understand my emotional needs, no matter how many times and different ways I tried to explain them. Truthfully, I’ve never been good at getting my emotions across to anyone. And physically, we were already distant. We didn’t cuddle or hold hand and rarely kissed after the initial honeymoon phase of our relationship, even during sex.

Then our physical and sexual relationship all but ended in actual words. I had lost interest in trying and came to a logical conclusion that the relationship was over. But I didn’t actually know how to end it. We were both bitter, he took it out on me with violent language and I withdrew into a bottle.

The actual end of this relationship coincided with the beginning of the next. In which, on a geological field school a (tested) ISTP literally pulled me up a mountain to the highest point in the Smokies. And we spent the trip talking about our goals and dreams, having philosophical discussions of just about anything that caught our fancy. I was pulled in by his fascination of figuring out how things worked.

He was quite demanding of physical contact, which at first was a breath of fresh air. He wanted to share blankets every time we watched a movie, walk everywhere holding hands, and just hug me for no apparent reason. But this really started to become exhausting for me after a while. In the end, it was his tendency to be hurt by my need for alone time and how he moped around after every fight, and his unwillingness to actually think for himself or put any of those dreams he originally told me about to any sort of real manifestation that tore us apart. He wasn’t willing to work at things and expected me to fix him and his messes, when I wasn’t even around because of research and classes and my job.

Even when we were close to breaking up, he still demanded touch from me. I always felt so pressured by it and I hated the feeling so much that I actually held out even when it wouldn’t have been terrible for me.

My current significant other (an aquaintance of 9 years, but only together now for less than a year) has been tested as an ENFP. I find this relationship to be the most unique yet. I never expected that it would be something that I would like. He absolutely infuriates me half the time, and yet I can’t keep the smile off my face even when he’s being totally incorrigable. He’s very needy of attention, but never lets on about it verbally. He hasn’t demanded physical contact from me, but he likes to play games, tease, or annoy me until he has my undivided attention. He doesn’t ask, but rather tucks me in to his side when we’re watching a movie or wraps me up in his arms when we’re alseep.

His actions get a rise out of me like I just can’t explain. For example, he asks the cashier at the theater if I can use the restroom behind the gates before I can even open my mouth. Or demands that his brother get me a refill, too, while I’m up. He sternly yells at me if I’m not laying down or staying covered up when I’m sick.

I find myself wanting to hug him and bury my face in his chest constantly. To always want to hold his hand or place a quick kiss to his cheek. To hold him all night long or have him hold me.

This is the first time that I’ve really actually yearned for physical contact.

I’ve mentioned in a previous post about him understanding my emotions just from my expressions, but I’ll mention it again. He knows exactly which smile of mine means “I love you” and which one means I’m thinking something naughty. He knows that when I stroke his arm, or chest, or beard that I’m showing him I care about him in my own way. He’s never asked me to say the emotions aloud, he’s even expressed that he understands what they mean and was correct in his assumptions. When I do say those three words to him though, his face lights up in such a way that I just want to spill my soul out to him and so I try to say things more just because I want to see him happy, not because of an obligation on how I’m supposed to act in a relationship. As an example, I blew him a discreet kiss across the table while out to eat today and his reaction was to smile and tell me that I spoil him.

He gets me to open up by asking me what I’m thinking rather than forcing a topic, something he’s learned after trying to get me to talk on our first few dates.

I feel sometimes as though he knows me better than I do. It’s such a scary thought for me! But on the other hand, it’s so nice to have someone understand me so much.

Recently, he started opening up to me more about his own feelings, something I honestly expected earlier in the relationship. But he is rather closed off about his thoughts, and enjoys teasing me with keeping them secret because he knows that all I want is just to know. He shared with me some personal things, and I think I’ve come to realize that I have to just be there to listen rather than allow my need to know everything to push him away. One of my best traits is that I’m always available to listen when someone I care about needs me. I can show him this, and perhaps show him that I’m safe and trustable. It’s going to be hard for me, but I’m always willing to work at a relationship until there is nothing left for me to do.

How To Date an INTJ - Flirting

Wed, 31 Oct 2012 02:27:03 -0500

underwater-pebbles:

As a female INTJ, I think I can speak for the majority of INTJs when I say that we are difficult to date.

I’ll skip to the facts on this, but this isn’t going to be an infallible guide. Please reblog or reply with corrections or suggestions. This is more of an experiment on how well I know INTJs than anything else. Obviously none of this will apply for EVERY INTJ.

Flirting

If you only want to know signs that an INTJ is interested, skip under the cut to the bottom of the post.

When you’re flirting with an INTJ, the most important things to present will be your personality, your personal strengths, and how you can improve his or her life - why they should talk to you as an equal. INTJs are very objective and systematic in everything they do, and they will probably know what they need or want in a partner. They will be looking for opinions and traits that you have in common with them, a solid intellect, and an ability to converse beyond just small talk.

The best time to accustom yourself to the way INTJs function is as early as possible. They don’t play by the same rules that the rest of society does. It’s not only that they have anarchist fuck-the-police tendencies, they also often play by self-imposed rules of conversation and interaction. These rules may be difficult to understand. You will have two options for dealing with these rules if the INTJ is using them: ask about the rationale and the terms of the rule, or simply roll with it.

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I agree with a lot of this. But at the same time, the one thing I’ve always found about myself that differs from the typical presentation of the INTJ is that I actually love touching.

To me, touching is just about the only way that I can fully express my emotions. Without touching, I just flail around mentally trying to figure out how to get my point across. I often find myself not knowing how to say what I mean to someone that I’m interested in, and a playful touch to the shoulder or arm or finding a reason to touch their hair is my most likely go-to for flirting.

Now mind you, I can list of the people that I actually enjoy touching on one hand.

And if I can’t touch, my next best attempt is smiling at the other person with eye contact.

vivala-vivian: Interviewer: Okay. Which designers do you...

Thu, 18 Oct 2012 17:57:36 -0500

vivala-vivian:

Interviewer: Okay. Which designers do you prefer?

Hillary Clinton: What designers of clothes?

Interviewer: Yes.

Hillary Clinton: Would you ever ask a man that question?

Interviewer: Probably not. Probably not.

INTJs and flirting

Sun, 14 Oct 2012 02:35:00 -0500

antionettechante:

Question:

Do any of you INTJs flirt?

Last time I flirted, I’m made a complete fool of myself and never want to attempt again. I’m just curious.

I flirt mostly when I’m not actually flirting, e.g. playing around with very close friends. When it comes to someone I’m actually interested in, I falter, become very awkward and act completely foolish. It’s rather embarrassing really.